Archbishop Nicholas Duncan-Williams has advised young, unmarried men not to bankrupt themselves chasing glamorous weddings.
Addressing his congregation at Action Chapel International, the church founder urged would-be grooms to invest wisely instead of staging ceremonies that drain every cedi.
“Most of the foolish things we do are to use our money for other things. For weddings, we go and buy all these white dresses and suits. We spend all the money on weddings,” he said.
Duncan-Williams cautioned that borrowing for a one-day spectacle often turns into lingering stress once creditors start calling.
“So people have come, you’ve dressed nicely, but you are in debt, and they are calling for their money. Your phone is ringing and somebody says, the money you collected, when can I have my money? And you can’t tell the lady that you borrowed some money to do shows,” he warned.
Drawing from his own journey, the archbishop recalled marrying at 21 or 22 with little idea of what he was getting into, driven largely by outside pressure.
“You could tell that this guy is confused. I was like a sheep carried to the slaughter. I had no idea of what I was doing. I had no idea of what marriage was – I was just told I should marry, so me too, I married,” he admitted.
His counsel to today’s couples is simple: resist societal pressure.
“So let me say to some of you, when you get it all right, don’t do a wedding,” he advised.
Even when parents insist on an elaborate affair, Duncan-Williams suggested redirecting those funds toward building the marriage itself.
“If I were you, I would take that money that they are going to use for the wedding to do other things for the marriage itself. Just come to the office, sign the document, we bless you, you kiss one another, go home,” Archbishop Duncan-Williams counselled.
