Ghanaian gospel singer Selina Boateng has offered a rare glimpse into the emotional weight and personal revelations that marriage has brought into her life, along with the deep regrets she now carries.
During an interview on Onua FM’s Efie Ne Fie Drive Time with Ohemaa Acheampomaa, Selina reflected on how vastly different her expectations were from the reality she eventually encountered. With the clarity that hindsight brings, she admits she would have made very different decisions.
“Marriage has opened my eyes in so many ways,” she admitted. “If I had the chance to go back and make changes or amend certain decisions, I honestly would—because until you’re inside the walls of marriage, you’ll never truly understand what it is.”
To illustrate just how deceiving those early expectations can be, she used a striking metaphor.
“You may think something is red until you get in and realize it’s green. You think it’s white, but it’s actually yellow.”
Her takeaway: the fantasy of marriage often unravels the moment you step into its reality.
With heartfelt urgency, Selina turned her message toward those still waiting to marry. For them, she offered one powerful plea, don’t rush, and don’t bend to pressure. Instead, let divine wisdom guide your choice.
“My prayer for anyone looking forward to marriage is this: May God go ahead of you and grant you a high level of wisdom, Solomon’s kind of wisdom, to choose the right partner. Because if you end up with the wrong person, it will be nothing short of hell. And I say this from experience,” she said with conviction.
She stressed that prayerful discernment must outweigh material motives and societal noise.
“So I beg you, before you enter any marital union, go on your knees. Cry out to God for wisdom and understanding. Ask that the person coming into your life is not doing so because of your money, fame, or beauty, but because the two of you are meant to come together and fulfill God’s purpose.”
Pressed on what, exactly, she would do differently if given a second chance, Selina responded with honesty that cuts through social convention.
“I would not have listened more.”
Explaining further, she spoke to the dangerous power of external pressure—from society, friends, even family.
“People will pressure you: ‘You’re aging,’ ‘You’re late,’ ‘Just marry or just have kids.’ Don’t listen to that. You alone know the fire you’re walking into, and only you will endure it.”
